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Why Two Children Are Enough For Us, Or Is It?

I’ve always said that I wanted three children. Why? Because I only have one sibling. I would always wonder what it was like to have a brother, or another sister. Seeing other families with lots of siblings always made me wonder why my own parents stopped at two. Having two children seems to be a sweet number.

Rewind back to 2014. I had just had my first daughter, Charli. She was feisty from the get go. She is still that way! I always said that any child I have after her will be a piece of cake because she is the type of child that never sits still. She is either running, or jumping or snacking on something all day.

So that our kids would be close in age, I knew that we would try to have another child after she was about 2 years old. So we did. In 2016 we welcomed our second daughter, Emmy. to the world. I felt a slight sense of disappointment came over me when we found out we were having another girl as I had secretly wanted a boy this time. But none the less, I got over it instantly and was excited for Charli to share in the joys of having a sister, just like I did growing up.

Having Two Children

Emmy is so different…totally my sweet girl. She is calm and quiet and seems to enjoy watching the world around her rather than being the center of attention. They are two seemingly different individuals and yet they both require so much of my time independently. Raising a toddler and an infant at the same time is no joke. One is mobile and wants to go everywhere. The other is needy and wants you to hold them all day. I’m exhausted just thinking about getting them both ready in the mornings because I simply don’t have 6 hands to do all of the things I need to. (Thank you nap time!)

People ask me all of the time if I am going to “try for that boy”, or if we “think we are going to have another one”?

Apparently having two children these days (same gender) is just not enough for a couple to enjoy. I don’t blame the people that ask, though. I am guilty of asking my friends the same thing. I’m not offended by it at all. I just wish that I had the energy to have a third child! I will be 37 years old next month. I can definitely feel the age creeping up on me. And now, we are at the stage where sleep is much better at night….and we appreciate that! The thought of doing the late night feedings all over again makes my eyelids heavy. The baby is just finally starting to sleep through the night again, after what seemed like a 2 month digression.

Once the little one starts walking we are getting rid of that bulky car seat and all of the baby contraptions that fill the house. We will keep the necessities and slowly donate the things they grow out of. The thought of seeing my house free of large swings, baby seats and diaper genies almost excites me.

As of now, we are in a good position where one can watch the kids while the other is working out. (And thank goodness for neighbors that help us when we need it!) We look forward to date nights and family activities that the kids will enjoy without having to worry about nap times, back seat diaper changes and bottle cleaning.

We are keeping our options open as to whether a third child is in our future. At this point it’s 90% no and 10% maybe. The idea is nice to me….real nice, in fact. I would LOVE to be a mom to three children. At this moment, I feel tired, overwhelmed on certain days, and just not certain how I would manage my day if another little one was involved. Catch me on a well-rested day and my answer might be something along the lines of : “well…..maybe”. Then I see a new mom carrying a baby out in the store and forget it…all bets are off and my ovaries are dying to hold another sweet baby.

Having two children

Having Two Children

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7 Comments

  1. loved hearing your perspective on this!

    Published 10.24.16
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  2. This is sweet. You have a beautiful family!

    Published 10.24.16
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    • thelavenderladies wrote:

      Thank you, Ashley!

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  3. Diedre wrote:

    Great post! We have 2 girls and would love one more. We are trying, but when the time is right, it will happen.

    Published 10.24.16
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    • thelavenderladies wrote:

      Best of luck to you Diedre! So exciting!

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  4. Malissa wrote:

    Awww what a sweet post ???? first off, boys are awesome! ????…second..i think it’s a great idea to keep going while you’re still in your rhythm with your other kids. Although it’s super tiring..but once you’re out of that phase, youre out of it! My little sister had her kids close together and she’s exhausted and doesn’t want to try anymore. I say, life is short..why wait?? ???? Although, it would be nice to have a big kid to help you feed/play/bathe

    Published 10.25.16
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    • thelavenderladies wrote:

      It goes through my mind ALL the time…it’s driving me nuts thinking about having more kids! We’ll see! 😉

      Published 10.25.16
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